Stop! Whatever negative thing it is you’re saying to yourself right now, it just isn’t true!
We all have voices in our head of self-doubt telling us that it’s ok to give up because it’s too hard or convince us that we’re just not good enough or giving us excuses as to why we shouldn’t be able to achieve our goals. The majority of the time this is our egos way of trying to protect us.
This can also be extended to how we communicate with others and the words we choose to use to describe our actions, achievements and/or perceived lack of achievement, selling ourselves short or undermining ourselves before someone else can do it for us.
The power of language - your stories become your reality
What we think and say shapes our imagination, our feelings and our relationships with others. We need to be mindful of the words we use and the way we use them when we talk to our friends, family, co-workers and ourselves.
Whatever you are trying to achieve in life; to run your first 5km, to pass your driving test, to secure your dream job, or to create your own business, there will be times when you believe you will succeed and times when you start to doubt yourself.
In times of doubt changing your language to be more action-oriented and introducing positive affirmations will impact on your energy, outlook and ultimate success.
Here are some of the things we try to be mindful of in our daily lives:
What and how we say things to ourselves and others.
Negative talk just slows us down, each negative thought needs fuel that we just don’t have spare.
Correcting ourselves when we become aware that we are using negative/harmful language.
A positive replacement can boost our energy and reinforce our ‘why’ to give us a better outlook and results.
Define your own reality
What can you do to change your relationship with language and the outcome of your story?
Be mindful of the language you use. Spend some time paying attention to what it is you are saying in your head and also in your communication with others, it may be affecting you more than you realise.
How the words you use make you feel?
What impact does it have on your life?
Do you use language differently at home, at work and in your head?
Once you have identified some of your language habits that you think are holding you back take steps to remove them. Remember, if it’s not part of the solution then it’s probably part of the problem and it needs to go!
Don’t become a prisoner of your own mind - get some perspective
Say the negative thoughts in your head out loud and you’ll realise how silly you sound, how horrible you can be to yourself and potentially how crazy passers-by will think you are! You will also realise you don’t really think the things you are saying and that you wouldn’t use them for anyone else. This was a great piece of advice we picked up from Anna McNuff at the National Running Show.
Write down / pay attention to the things you say / feel and discuss it with a close friend who knows you well but who will tell you the truth. If you are too embarrassed to tell even your closest friends what you say maybe you are beginning to realise something is amiss and you don’t truly believe it. Just by paying closer attention to your use of language you will become conscious of what and how you say things, you may not even realise the detrimental impact your language is having.
Affirmations - ‘I am in control of my destiny’
Try adding some language boosting positivity into your morning routine. Take 5 minutes out from your morning and focus on some positive affirmations.
Focus on your positive attributes instead of dwelling on things you want to change. Create thoughts of why you are good enough to reach your goals and how you will achieve the things you set out to.
Change the words you use to create more empowering statements; change from ‘I will’ to ‘I am’ and from ‘I should’ to ‘I want to’ to ‘I am going to’.
Affirmations are easy to create, using them and realising their potential takes a little bit more dedication. Spend 5 minutes less on social media each day and create some positive affirmations of your own, you won’t regret it.
Mantras can be particularly useful when times get tough and you need an extra boost and can also help shift negative habits and patterns into positive ones. They can be said out loud, in your head or a combination of the two and are often repeated over and over again. We find them particularly useful in stressful situations, to help us calm down and see the situation more clearly, or to help us push through a difficult situation.
Here are some of our favourites:
“You can, you will, you are”
“It won’t last forever”
“Every day in every way, I am getting better and better”
“I change my thoughts, I change my world”
Use your language to build yourself up, not break you down
Habits and Understanding are two of the ProHuman foundations. The way you communicate and the words you use when you talk to yourselves and others become so engrained that they become habits you don’t even realise you have.
The importance of understanding your habits and how they impact your life is a key aspect to reaching your true potential. This includes understanding your language and how it is helping or hindering you.
To find out more about the power of language stay tuned for up and coming ProHuman workshops and for articles, hints & tips and challenges on our member zone. Visit our challenge page and join us on our quest to be more in control of our language and to introduce some positivity into your morning routine to help you win the day.