Lifestyle not resolutions!
So we all have done it, we probably did it this January too, the old New Year’s resolution to get healthier, start a new business, visit family members, save more money. Whatever it was, are you still on track?
Waiting for a new year to start to make changes in your life is no way to go about living. Make it part of your lifestyle that you continually strive to improve and do better, learn from your short comings and failures and keep pushing forwards. People that succeed are taking steps every day to reach their goals.
If you’re still procrastinating and waiting for that right moment, STOP! It’s time to take action.
Here are some of the main reasons most people fail and how you can avoid the same mistakes.
1. They focus on all of it at once. Trying to change everything all at once will leave you feeling overwhelmed and confused, with no idea of where to even begin. Prioritisation is key to success. Have your end goal in mind and set realistic, achievable milestones along the way. Remember, the process and what you learn from it is just as important as the goal you have in mind.
2. They get disheartened when it doesn’t happen immediately. Anything worth doing is worth doing right and it will take time and patience.
3. It’s harder than they thought it would be. If it was easy you would have done it already. Accept that in order to make changes you will have to work you ass off!
4. They don’t make it a priority. If you really want it, put it at the top of your list. You can really want it, or even need it, but if you don’t take action, nothing will ever happen.
5. They don’t accept or ask for help. No one person can do everything on their own, there simply isn’t enough time in the day, it takes a team to get things truly working. This may be as simple as getting a spotter in the gym or getting a babysitter so you can take the misses out! Create a team to help you, but remember to help them too.
6. They focus on the finish line. Goals are important but there is no real end point, strive for continual improvement and always raise the bar. Make changes that you want to incorporate into your life forever, don’t just count down the days till you can start eating your favourite junk food again. Constant small changes create long term big gains.
7. They don’t enjoy the process. Make it enjoyable. Don’t do things you really don’t enjoy just because it’s the latest craze on social media. Forcing yourself to do something you hate will result in you losing motivation and most likely giving up. Think outside the box, find an alternative path, that doesn't mean taking the easy option.
8. They don’t make themselves accountable. When you take something on, and you really want to be successful, be brave and tell the world. Post it on social media or make a promise to your nearest and dearest. Build your support network and ask them to help you stay on track, keep you focused and encourage you along the way, especially when you feel like quitting.
Hints & Tips
It only takes 21 days to create a habit, so make today day 1.
Give yourself a break. This doesn’t mean work for 5 minutes and then take 10 off; it means be honest with yourself when you’re knackered, rest, replenish and get ready to hit it harder the next time.
Don’t waste a bad mistake, learn from it and move on.
Accept that making long lasting, positive changes in your life will take time, commitment and dedication.
Set your sights high, be realistic, work through the pain and stay true to the mission.
Surround yourself with people who want to celebrate in your success, not those waiting to see you fail.
Be the hero in your own movie.